How to figure out what you want and Keep your kids from cheating

(Oprah.com) -- Here's the truth: People who get what they want tend to be the ones who make the effort to know what they want.They say feminism had several "waves," though I can never keep them straight. All I know is, back in the day, one of these waves sloshed me into many passionate conversations with classmates and colleagues about the changes we wished to see in the world. These were mostly good old bitch 'n' moan sessions, in which we lamented everything from unfair wages to sex slavery. True, the potential for another type of conversation did occasionally arise, when someone would ask, "So how do we fix things?" But at that point, a funny thing always happened: We suddenly ran out of things to say.I don't blame us for clamming up. I understand the buzzkill. Complaining is easy, even fun, compared with the challenge of creating a plan for positive change. [Read the full article]

(Parenting.com) -- You're a typical fourth-grader. You've got soccer three afternoons this week, two birthday parties, piano, chess club, recycling club, and making-stuff-from-duct- tape club. On top of all that, you're supposed to write a big report about tornadoes -- and you know Mom and Dad will freak if you bring home a bad grade. Would you be tempted to save time with a little cutting and pasting from the web?If you're like plenty of students, you would. It's a perfect storm out there for cheating: jam-packed after-school schedules, high expectations from parents and teachers, and technology just waiting to help kids make an end run around the rules. Studies show that by the time they graduate from high school, 80 to 85 percent of kids have cheated at least once, says Eric M. Anderman, Ph.D., a professor of educational psychology at Ohio State University in Columbus. [Read the full article]

After becoming a mom, I also became something surprisingly sinister: a liar. And, boy, did I get good at it. I can whip up a nifty half-truth to head off a kid (or hubby) meltdown without batting an eyelash. I can only shrug and look up for lightning.One trip to the pediatrician's office spawned a web of lies. In the waiting room, I told another mom how wonderful and easy breastfeeding was. And I quote: "It was bliss from the beginning." Gag. Why did I even say that? Truth be told, it sucked -- literally and figuratively. Then I crossed my fingers behind my back and told my son it was just a quickie checkup (whoops, shot day!).To create the ultimate untruth grandslam, I flat-out lied to the doctor about my daughter's early dental care -- "Why, yes, I do brush that one tiny little baby tooth every morning and night." I'm not alone here. As moms, we sternly wag our fingers at kid-generated dishonesty but have somehow carved a little clause in the rule book for mommy lies. [Read the full article]

(Health.com) -- We've all been there: standing at the drugstore in front of rows and rows of conditioners, wondering what to buy. From daily conditioner and heat-protecting leave-in mists to deep conditioners and keratin masks, the options can be daunting.The truth is, "all conditioners smooth the cuticle, soften hair, add shine, and restore moisture," says celebrity hairstylist Juan Carlos Maciques of the Rita Hazan Salon in New York City. "But using the right one is the best way to keep your hair healthy and your style looking great."We asked top stylists like Maciques to share the golden rules of conditioning. Use them to make your strands -- and your next shopping trip -- a whole lot smoother.Everything your hair is exposed to (washing, coloring, styling, even just going outside) can dry it out. [Read the full article]

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